Happy Valentine’s Day! Many teens—and those parenting college students—are thinking about love, relationships, and the excitement of new connections. But as they prepare for college and greater independence, it’s just as important to talk about consent.
Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no” at the moment—it’s about mutual respect, clear communication, and understanding boundaries. Yet for many teens, these conversations can feel awkward or unclear. Parents and educators can help by normalizing discussions about consent, peer pressure, and the impact of substance use in relationships.
As parenting college students, we sometimes hesitate to have these conversations because they feel uncomfortable. But if we find the courage to talk about boundaries, respect, and consent throughout our kids’ teenage years, we can empower them to make safer choices—ones that protect not only their well-being but also their future.
Top Tips for Talking About Consent with Teens:
- Consent is ongoing – It’s not a one-time question; partners should check in with each other.
- A clear “yes” matters – Silence, hesitation, or uncertainty is not consent.
- Pressure isn’t okay – Feeling pressured (by a person or peer expectations) is a sign to step back.
- Substances change the equation – If someone is intoxicated, they cannot give consent.
- Body language speaks, too – If someone looks uncomfortable or is pulling away, stop and check-in.
- Bystanders can make a difference – Friends should step in if they see a peer in an unsafe situation.
This article from the Child Mind Institute breaks it down in a way that’s accessible and practical. Let’s empower students with the tools to navigate relationships with confidence and care.
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What approaches have worked for you in discussing consent with teens? Let’s keep this conversation going!
